From Readers...

(5.0 out of 5 stars)

Shut Up and Stay Married: The Secret to Marriage Success is the fifth book by Yisroel Roll, a psychotherapist, divorce mediator, and motivational speaker.

In this book, the author teaches the reader the secret of a successful marriage: to Shut Up. "Shut up?" you ask? I know, I thought it was a weird concept as I began to read the book and asked myself "Surely he doesn't mean that we should let digs and rude comments continue without question." But, no, it turns out that the author means that one shouldn't respond to a negative comment with a negative comment, and we should not dwell on them. He introduces a way of communicating with a spouse, or a child, that would not cause the other party to become more defensive. Such simple concepts like using "I" instead of "You" (i.e. "I feel embarrassed when...." instead of "You embarrass me") would work wonders in a relationship, and allow both parties to earn and give respect and trust once again.

The book teaches the reader that it is crucial to feel positive about one's self, to respect ourselves, and recognize our personal character strengths and weaknesses. Once we've achieved that, it would be easier to "Shut Up and Stay Married". Once we learn to become emotionally independent, our relationship would be more harmonious. This book teaches the reader how to accomplish that.

Yisroel Roll is an incredible writer, and has filled this book with motivation and encouragement that drives the reader to fix themselves in order to fix their marriage. Not only can these practices be used with a spouse, but also in how we communicate with our own children. He has filled the pages with advice on just that subject. The reader will learn how to stop criticizing, stop lecturing, how to empower our children, motivate them to change, and more.

Shut Up and Stay Married is a wonderful book, and one that should be required reading for all married couples.

- Terri

(5.0 out of 5 stars)
Great advice - for all relationships, May 5, 2011

This review is from: Shut Up and Stay Married (Paperback)
With today's prevailing attitude of the "disposable marriage", Rabbi Roll's insights are a breath of much-needed fresh air. Positivity and constructive communication can work wonders in any relationship - as my grandmother often says, one can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. I have adopted many of the mindsets and techniques in this book, and I have seen a marked improvement in my relationship with my husband, my children, and even with my parents.

I reccommend this book highly to anyone who seeks to improve any relationship.

May the author go from strength to strength!

-E. Edelson "Zionista" (Baltimore, MD, USA)

(4.0 out of 5 stars)
Are you married? If so, then, you know the feeling of utmost fulfillment to be with that one person you are meant to be with (personally, I refer to him as my God's gift) and with that comes along all the challenges in being with that same person as well.

If you are looking for a one stop shop solution to a lifelong quest into staying married, then this is not it because there is no such thing. Instead, this book gives us sensible guidelines in discovering a persons self worth and how to provide the same respect, trust, caring and support to your spouse. These are not all new ground breaking formulas, rather, they are told in the author's perspective and expertise which I liked and truly respect as he is direct and easy to comprehend. I found the success charts, wheel of strength, gratuity lists to be highly effective. This book offers wonderful advise into personal growth/awareness into the positive self (as opposed to the negative self), how to extend it to your spouse and children.

Shut Up and Stay Married provides insights into realizing a persons value, how to successfully be with your beloved and live in harmony.

It is not unusual when I tell friends that I've read a book in a day. Well, given that this book is about a hundred pages long, I managed to finish it on my shuttle ride to work which was about 30 minutes. I found several nuggets that I will be using daily.

-Pia Bernardino

Shut Up and

Stay Married



February 9, 2014

You will learn to:

  • Build your self esteem
  • Have empathy for your spouse
  • Be in Love Again
  • Focus on the good
  • Not respond in anger
  • Stop taking pot shots at your spouse
  • Speak in intimate way
  • Revive your marriage
  • Communicate Effectively

Spaces are limited

Attend as a couple or on your own

Couples work is preferred

Seminar Leader:
Rabbi Yisroel Roll, LCPC

Motivational Speaker
Marriage Therapist
Self Esteem Expert